Do you feel torn between your parents or guardians and a friend? Maybe your parents think your friend is a bad influence, like she’s rude or isn’t serious about school. Or maybe they think your friend isn’t nice and could wind up hurting you. Keep reading for tips on what you can do.
What can I do if my parents don’t like my friends?
You may feel angry if your parents don’t like your friends, but try to stay calm. There are things you can do. What works best will depend on your relationship with your parents or guardians.
Do you usually get along well with your parents? If you and your parents usually trust each other and work well to find solutions, you likely can deal with this issue, too. Here are some ways to get started:
- Ask your parents or guardians what specifically bothers them about your friend. Maybe you will be able to explain why they don’t need to worry. Or, maybe you’ll find that they’re seeing something you missed.
- Ask your parents or guardians if they’re willing to spend a little more time with you and your friend. If they get to know him or her better, they may see the good things you see.
- Talk about a compromise. For example, maybe your parents or guardians would feel OK if you see your friend only when they’re around.
Are you having other problems with your parents or guardians? If you are already having issues, you still might try the suggestions above. But you also might need some outside help. You could talk to a religious leader, doctor, teacher, coach, favorite relative, or other trusted adult.
Someone who is trained to work with people on their relationships could help. These include a social worker, school counselor, or therapist.
What if my parents forbid me from seeing a friend?
Keep in mind that your parents or guardians may be trying to protect you. They have many years of experience and may notice problems that you don’t.
Try talking with your parents or guardians about their concerns and ways you might address whatever is worrying them. They may not change their minds, but talking calmly and honestly is important.
Source: Office On Women’s Health: www.girlshealth.gov