How much do you know about your teen’s relationship with his or her partner?
While the majority of teen relationships are fairly normal, teen dating violence is probably more common than you think. One-third of U.S. adolescents are victims of physical, sexual, emotional or verbal abuse from someone they are dating. And almost 1.5 million high schoolers deal with physical abuse from a dating partner in a single year. And when you add drugs to the equation it only makes things worse.
Drug use can drastically change a person’s behavior, and as a consequence, have a negative impact on close relationships. In fact, a 2017 study made the connection between teen dating violence and the misuse of prescription drugs. Researchers found that among young males, non-medical use of prescription drugs was connected to dating violence. And among the females, the non-medical use of prescription drugs was connected more often with the physical form of dating violence.
What about other drugs? Well, cocaine, for example, can cause its users to be aggressive and paranoid; two traits that are likely to contribute to a hostile, abusive relationship.
Types of Dating Violence
It’s important to note that dating violence can take on different forms. Here are four types:
Physical – when a person hits, kicks, shoves his or her partner
Psychological/emotional – could include name-calling, bullying, and isolation
Sexual – forcing a partner to engage in a sex act when they don’t want to; threatening to spread rumors if a partner doesn’t want to have sex
Stalking – constant, unwanted harassment
Dating violence also occurs over a computer or smartphone and includes someone repeatedly texting a partner, or even posting a partner’s nude photos online.
How to Help Your Teen
Recognize the signs. Here is a list of warning signs of abuse which include:
- Your teen’s partner is jealous or possessive
- Unexplained bruises or marks on your teen
- Your teen is depressed; stops participating in activities they once loved
- Your teen is constantly texted by his/her partner
Talk to your teen. Set aside some quiet time to talk to your teen, one-on-one, if you suspect they may be having serious issues in their relationship.
Help them get professional help. Often, your teen won’t feel comfortable talking to you about these issues. If that’s the case, point them towards the resource below:
Educating yourself on teen dating violence and abuse (learning the signs, prevention measures, and its causes) can help you start a conversation with your young loved one early on before he or she starts to date.
Source: United States Government, Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA): www.getsmartaboutdrugs.gov